I’m having major anxiety about a first appointment, because the last time this whole pregnancy business happened to me, it didn’t work out so well. Wanna hear about it? I know you do! So, television pregnancy has no relationship to reality pregnancy. I’ve mentioned this phenomena, but it gets worse (you can count on TV to do that). On television, there is always this fully-formed baby hanging out in the womb (even if the person is on their supposed first visit to the OB—most recently I saw this portrayed in the Netflix-worthy film “Then She Found Me”). In actuality, all you see is an etch-a-sketchy blob. Hopefully, it flickers. If it flickers, that means it has a heartbeat.
But, the first time I got pregnant, it was twins, and the blobs didn’t flicker. They said to wait awhile. So I did. But it turned out something went wrong, and at the next visit, the ultrasound showed these two perfect circles, with no blobby movement. The doctors said, “it just happens, bodies do that, not your fault.” WebMD told me that I had an ovum miscarriage, and that it happens often with twins. All I can say about this is: it sucked.
If you have had a miscarriage, you can bet that lots of women you know have, too. The general statistic quoted is one in four women (or like, a fourth of the women you know—see, I can do math) have had a miscarriage. They are good to talk to about this stinky experience. Although doctors always say, “the good news is that you can get pregnant!” I am not going to pretend that there is any good news to a miscarriage. Miscarriages suck.
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